A mother-of-two has described how her family now ‘feels complete’ after she and her husband entered into a polyamorous throuple with another woman after 15 years of marriage.
Ava Miller, from Washington State, has been in the unconventional relationship with her husband Anthony Miller, 37, and her fiancé Ashley Welp, 24, for around two years.
Ava and Anthony, who married in 2003 and have two sons together, claim the trio are ‘head over heels in love with each other’ despite the ‘strange looks’ they often receive when together in public.
Ava, 40, said: ‘I love my husband and my fiancé equally. We don’t care what society thinks, we are head over heads in love with each other.
Ava Miller (right), from Washington State, has been in a polyamorous throuple with her husband Anthony Miller (middle) and her fiancé Ashley Welp (left) for around two years
‘People who judge poly families need to realize that we are people just like them. Sharing is the best part of polyamory, it makes me so happy.
‘We have built a beautiful foundation together and my family feels complete.’
Ava first met her husband, a technical recruiter, through friends in January 2001 and the couple married in October two years later.
‘I loved Anthony from the moment I met him. He was charming, and funny’, she said. ‘The following year in July 2004, I gave birth to our first son’.
‘Then in 2009, we had another son and our family was complete.’
Throughout the next six years, the couple settled into family life – but Ava felt something was missing in her relationship with her husband.
Ava and Anthony, who married in 2003 and have two sons together, claim the trio are ‘head over heels in love with each other’
In January 2018, the mother-of-two made a shocking confession to her partner, telling him she wanted to bring another woman into their marriage.
She said: ‘I’d always known I liked women, even before we got married. I told Anthony that I wondered what it’d be like to be with another woman, or have one join our life.
‘Anthony loved the idea, and suddenly, we were very excited!’
In February 2018, 15 years after they married, Ava and Anthony were added into a WhatsApp group with mutual friends.
There, they began chatting to primary school teacher Ashley, who had recently moved to their hometown.
Ava first met her now-husband, a technical recruiter, through friends in January 2001 (right in 2002) and the couple married in October two years later. (Pictured left: Ashley and Anthony)
The throuple initially told Ava and Anthony’s children (pictured with Ava and Ashley) that Ashley was their friend, but the two boys soon caught on to the nature of the relationship
Ava added: ‘We told Ashley we were married, and had a family. She stood out from everyone. She kept cracking jokes and she was so nice to talk to.
‘Afterwards we set up our own group chat for the three of us and we talked every day.
‘Me and Anthony would sit at the opposite ends of our sofa chatting to her.’
One month later, Ava and Ashley met for the first time, and went shopping at a local mall.
The mother-of-two said: ‘Ashley was the most beautiful person, it made me so nervous. I loved how bubbly she was, she welcomed me with open arms and made me feel comfortable.
‘Afterwards, we went home and Anthony cooked us a romantic dinner. We kissed for the first time that night.
Ava told her husband (pictured together) in January 2018 – after 15 years of marriage – that she wanted to bring another woman into their relationship
Pictured: Anthony and Ava Miller hold hands during their wedding day in June 2003
‘It felt like we’d known Ashley all our life. It was natural.’
From then on, Ava, Anthony and Ashley considered themselves a polyamorous trio.
The throuple initially told Ava and Anthony’s children that Ashley was their friend, but the two boys soon caught on to the nature of the relationship.
Ava said: ‘At first we told the kids that Ashley was our friend. They grew to really love her and considered her their fun auntie.
‘But one month later, the kids caught on. They asked us, “Are you guys in one of those triangle relationships?”.
Anthony and Ava proposed to Ashley in August 2018 and plan to have an unofficial ceremony
‘We told them we were and they accepted us immediately. I was relieved at how laid back they were.’
In July 2018, Ashley moved into the couple’s family home and they bought a king-sized bed to accommodate her.
Ava said: ‘I’m always cold so I sleep in the middle. Our sex life doesn’t involve any schedule, it’s very spontaneous and fun.
‘But we prefer it when it’s the three of us.’
Anthony and Ava proposed to Ashley in August 2018. Despite polygamy – the practice of having more than one husband or wife at the same time – being illegal in the US, the trio still plan to have an unofficial wedding ceremony.
The married couple gave Ashley a silver wedding ring to represent their love for each other.
Ava admitted that the throuple do often get ‘strange looks’ when out together at restaurants and the cinema, but just ‘laugh it off’.
She said: ‘We’ll hold hands and kiss in public. Sometimes people have given us strange looks, but we just laugh it off.
‘Waiters get very confused at our dinner table when we ask for the check. Sometimes we’ll date each other separately while the third person watches the kids.
‘We try our best to make it equal and have time for one another.’